The Grieving Process – Grieving is stressful, but healing takes time.
- Everyone’s grief is different.
- There is no way around grief except through it.
- While there are common phases/patterns of grief, there is no one way to mourn.
- Grieving is a process with lots of ups and downs
- How long the grieving process lasts is different for everyone.
- Recovery is a choice.
The 5 Stages of Dealing With Grief and Sorrow – Grieving is stressful, but healing takes time.
- Denial – Refusing to believe what has happened, feeling shocked. “This can’t be happening.”
- Anger – Accusing others, such as a supreme being or friends, for what has occurred. “How dare you let this happen!”
- Bargaining – Asking the universe or a supreme being to “cut a deal” with you. “Just let me live to see my daughter get married.”
- Depression – Experiencing listlessness or exhaustion combined with feelings of helplessness, guilt and lack of interest in life. “I might as well give up.”
- Acceptance – Facing the loss and moving on, returning to setting goals in your life and focusing your energy more positively. “I’m ready to deal with this now.”
Take Care Of Yourself – Grieving is stressful, but healing takes time.
- Get enough sleep
- Get good nutrition – eat right
- Exercise – walking is easy
- Talk about your feelings
- Give yourself quiet/down time
- Schedule fun time with friends
Know That – Grieving is stressful, but healing takes time.
- Your emotions and feelings can be all over the place and that’s OK.
- Being sad and crying are both normal parts of the process.
- You may feel angry at times and that’s OK.
- Feeling afraid or worried about your future and your “new” life.
- Shoulda, coulda, shouldn’t have’s can cause a lot of guilt.
- You may not feel anything for awhile.
- You may feel relief if the death ends a long illness or suffering.
- Special days can be difficult – holidays, birthdays (deceased, children’s, grandchildren’s), wedding anniversary, death anniversary, weddings, births.
- Don’t suppress your emotions, but don’t feel guilty about having a good time and enjoying family and the day.
- Keep up your families special traditions.
- If being alone is difficult, reach out to family or friends.